I thought I was a poet in college. I remember sitting in my poetry teacher’s office during office hours. We were supposed to talk about my poetry (some of it was pretty bad), but I really wanted to ask her some questions. I would have said something like this:
When did you fall in love, and how did you know when you did?
I was really curious, but I didn’t say anything, because it was office hours, and who was I to be getting all personal?
And so, I continued to wonder, until I arrived (years later, stumbling and scraped) at my own happy future.
So, here we are. And maybe you are just like I was. Maybe you have been feeling pretty desolate about your love life, and you’ve wondered if it’s going to work out.
It will. If you have been wanting a person to tell you it will all turn out well, then that person is me. Thing worked out just fine for me, even though I was quite convinced that they wouldn’t, and I believe that they can work out just as well for you. So, here is my advice for you, right where you are.
- The first thing, I think, is to realize that we don’t know everything. We don’t know everything, and the world is so big that we can’t possibly have a concept of the bigger picture.There are 7 billion people in the world, which means that the bigger picture is way bigger than we are. Sometimes it’s important to trust that things are working out for your benefit, and the benefit of everyone involved (past/present/future).
This means: you can say something embarrassing in a text message or in person, and things still might work out in your favor. You can mess things up endlessly. But you still might end up somewhere good.
- Check yourself. Are you still mentally in middle school? So often, I think that our self esteem is frozen back in middle school. If, like me, your middle school social experience was shaky, at best, then you might have some work to do in that area. The little person who didn’t fit in all that well back then has grown into a big person who is doing just fine on his or her own. But sometimes, you might forget that.