Last year, I read The Surrender Experiment by Michael A. Singer.
It’s a memoir where he stops fighting against the things that are trying to happen. He starts saying yes to everything – accepting the things that seem to want to show up in his life.
He says yes to jobs. People. New opportunities.
He gets his heart broken and moves out to the country, buys some land. He wants to be alone. Meditate. Commune with nature.
But soon people want to move onto his property, and before too long, he has a whole new community.
He didn’t ask for it, but he loves it.
One day -— this is my favorite part — he walks into Radio Shack (the book takes place in the mid-1980s).
He falls in love with a computer. He’s absolutely entranced. He comes back to buy it later.
He’s obsessed with the thing. He wants to learn everything there is to know about it about it.
He teaches himself to program for the pure joy of it, and before too long, he has a programming company.
He didn’t want a programming company. He just fell in love with a computer.
Sometimes, you can’t see the future.
When I don’t like the way things are unfolding, I remind myself about The Surrender Experiment. Maybe I don’t know the whole story. Maybe I don’t know what’s best.
Before I read The Surrender Experiment, I read Singer’s other book, The Untethered Soul.
I remember sitting with a friend at dinner one night.
Yeah, she said, he talks about feelings being like air bubbles. They get stuck inside, for a long time. He says that when something comes up and you start to feel angry or bad, you just need to feel it. And then it dissolves.
But where does it go? I asked.
I don’t know, she said.
We sat there, feeling confused.
Eckhart Tolle addresses this concept in The Power of Now. How to dissolve the painbody. That’s the part of you that gets ticked off or angry. The part that is always reacting all over everything. The part that refuses to let go of the past. The part that gets hurt, let down, pissy, sad, disappointed.
The part of you – all the wonderful parts of you – that is not at peace.
The idea always seemed nebulous.
What, he just wants you to feel your feelings? It never made sense. I kept getting pissed off. I still do.
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